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You can't avoid emotions, but they don't have to rule a divorce

If you're feeling emotional about your impending divorce, you likely can't avoid it. This is a time of change. Even if you want to split up, it's an ending. That stage of your life is complete. You may feel happy, sad, angry or frustrated -- or all of those.

They key thing to remember is that you don't want your emotions to rule the divorce. They can lead to serious mistakes.

For instance, you may feel that the asset division plan your spouse has proposed is unfair. You may think he or she is hiding assets. However, you know that fighting it will take time and energy. If your emotions get the best of you and you're worn down, you may be tempted to simply go along with it to get it over with.

Don't do something you'll regret in a few months or a year. Instead, focus on getting the support you need. Keep friends and family members close. Consider seeing a counselor if that would help.

Sometimes, being strictly logical helps you avoid emotional ties. For instance, some experts suggest writing out a list of issues with your relationship, reasons for the split. Seeing them on the page in front of you can help you focus and can fight back negative emotions by reminding you that the divorce is needed.

Through it all, put time into yourself. Invest in your hobbies. Take trips. Enjoy your life. Don't let the emotions consume you, and they won't consume your divorce.

While doing this, make sure you understand your legal rights and how to proceed. Focus on your future and find out how to protect it.

Source: Live About, "8 Tips to Help You Deal With Mixed Emotions After Divorce," Cathy Meyer, accessed Oct. 05, 2017

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